Sas-Bahu conflicts

Sas-Bahu conflicts



Every day, for 13 days regularly, fill half a bowl with dahi ( curd ) and cover the dahi with a cotton cloth. Put little ash (preferably of ‘upale’ {dung cake} or wood charcoal { kachcha koyala } so that it could soak up the water) over the cloth and press it gently so that it soaks up the water content of the dahi. Leave the bowl for over night. In the morning, collect the ash in an earthen pot, while offer the dahi at any temple. At the end of the 13th day immerse the earthen pot along with the ash into a river or sea. The cloth you select, to cover the dahi with, should be porous enough to soak the water through.



Examination & Interview upaya



Upaya to be done for the preparations of the examinations :

[ 1 ] Before the examinations , for 7 Thursdays regularly , immerse in a river 7 haldi ganth + 4 besan laddoos tied in a yellow cloth.

[ 2 ] Use a pen / ball pen with a red body and a golden cap. You could use any ink.

Upaya for concentration in studies both for the examinations and interviews:

[ 1 ] Wear a small square piece of copper in a silver chain for concentration in studies for examination or for an interview.

Upaya to be done on the day of the examination or an interview

[ a ] Before leaving the house, eat some thing sweet and drink a little water.

[ b] On the way offer a little milk at any temple.





Harmony and Peace in the family



[ 1 ] Get a piece of Sita Ashok tree root. Place it in the pooja ghar so that a pooja of the root gets done every day. Ashok trees are of two varieties. One is of the ornamental variety which grows tall with drooping branches ; and the other is the one that grows into a huge shady tree. Sita Ashok is the one which grows to be a huge shady tree.

[ 2 ] Immerse in a river/ lake / or sea a pair of copper snakes on a Sunday.

[ 3 ] Every day feed a roti to a cow , dog and crows. This is known as a ‘gau gras’. This brings peace and prosperity to the home.

[ 4] If you fear that some one has cast an evil spell on the family then on a Sunday, burn a little kachcha koyala { wood charcoal } along with dried droppings of either a camel or a deer { Camel dung or deer dung } in an earthen pot. When the charcoal and the camel / deer droppings get red, sprinkle a few mustard seeds and a little bat droppings over it and carry the smoking pot around the house, in every nook and corner. Repeat this process for 13 Sundays at least .

The best place you can collect the bat droppings from is the deserted old buildings where bats roost during the day. You can collect the deer droppings from any zoo.


Safe Child Birth Upaya



[ 1 ] Take a red thread { kalawa } long enough so that it could be tied round the waist. Take this thread to a Ganesh temple and get it blessed by placing it before the idol, praying that this thread be the ‘raksha kavach’ { protective thread } of the child. Bring the thread home and the expectant mother should tie it round her waist. If for any reason the thread is defiled or broken, tie another through the same process. If you can’t get a kalawa, then dye an ordinary thick cotton thread with haldi { turmeric } paste.

After the child birth the same thread should be tied at the wrist of the mother and the child both and should stay on their wrists for 18 months.

[ 2 ] Just before going to the hospital for the delivery , the mother-to-be should establish , at home in a safe place , two brass containers { lota }one filled with milk and the other filled with sugar. Immediately after the safe delivery both the containers should be gifted at a temple or any religious place. If the delivery is at night the containers can be gifted the next morning after sun rise.

[ 3 ] If there is an apprehension that the delivery might be unusually painful , complicated or through an operation { caesarian } , the mother to be, before leaving for the hospital, should establish ( keep ) at home a little Jau { barley } in a bottle filled with water. Immerse both the jau and the bottle in a river, after the safe delivery.

Lunar Eclipse



[ 1 ] The Lunar eclipse upaya should be done next morning after sun rise.

[ 2 ] Normally the eclipse upaya should be done when the eclipse is
visible in that area.

Those who have either of the following planetary formation in any house

should throw the things , listed against the combination , into a
river / canal / or sea the next morning after sun rise.

Moon + Ketu :

a handful of til { sesame seeds }

tamarind {imilee }

lahsun { garlic }

 Moon + Rahu :

a handful of Jau { barley }

sarson { mustard seeds }

kachcha koyala { wood charcoal }

Moon + Saturn :

a handful of sabut badam { whole almonds with shell }

sabut urad { whole urad }

mustard oil


Solar eclipse



[ 1 ] The eclipse upaya should be done when the eclipse is over. If the eclipse goes beyond the sun set , in that case , the upaya should be done next morning after sun rise.

[ 2 ] Normally the eclipse upaya should be done when the eclipse is
visible in that area.



 SUN + RAHU :

All those who have Sun + Rahu in any house of the horoscope should

immerse in a river / canal / or sea :

a handful of Jau { barley },

sarson { mustard seeds }

and kachcha koyala { wood charcoal }


 SUN + SATURN :

All those who have Sun + Saturn in any house of the horoscope are

also advised to immerse in a river / canal / or sea :

a few whole almonds { sabut badam with shell },

a little mustard oil

and a nariyal { dry pooja nariyal }

Apart from the three items mentioned above they should also immerse:

 Sun + Saturn = mangal ashubh

Therefore , immerse in the river / canal or sea , after the eclipse is over, the karak objects of mangal ashubh , Saturn and rahu.

Immerse a handful of Rewari { a sweet of gur and til } along with Jau { barley },

and sarson tel { mustard oil }

If rahu or Saturn have a full aspect on Sun , the sun is

affected but not eclipsed. Therefore I do not think it calls for a
solar eclipse upaya.





Upaya for Memory



( 1 ) General memory :

Take a little rice. Color it with haldi {turmeric } paste. Take this rice to a Shiva temple and place it before the Shiv Ling praying that he / she be blessed with a sharp memory. Leave a little rice there in the temple and bring the rest of the rice back home. Gift this rice in a small square dibbi of silver to the mother for safe keeping. The mother should keep it in the North East corner of the house.

( 2 ) Analytical Memory :



Offer a little milk in an earthen pot { kulhar } at a temple for 13 days regularly.



( 3 ) Memory for Mathematics and the Sciences;




Wear a vest {or bra in case of a lady} with a small yellow flower embroidered or printed on it.



( 4 ) Memory for General Knowledge:

Make dough of turmeric powder with mustard oil in a small brass container. Take this dough to a Peepal tree. Place it under the tree and pray that he / she be blessed by the ancestors with a sharp memory. Leave a part of the dough there at the Peepal tree and bring home the rest. Give it to the mother for safe keeping. The mother should keep it in the North East corner of the house.

Traditional folk Upaya : can be done by all students

For concentration in the studies, settled and peaceful mind.

Upaya :

Wear round the neck a 6 mukhi rudraksh between two 5 mukhi rudraksha in a white thread. Wear it on any Monday of the bright half of the month { shukla paksha} after worshiping Lord Shiv.

( 5 and 6 mukhi rudraksha are the most common and available in abundance. They are the least expensive also; just a few rupees a piece.)


Upaya : is a ‘prayashchit’ and ‘tapasya’



Let’s understand the nature and the spirit of upaya. Whether the upaya are like ‘mantra jaap’ , ‘pooja’ ‘havan’ ‘daan’ ‘fasting’ ‘pilgrimage’ of the Vedic astrology or simple ethnic upaya of the Lal Kitab ; the purpose is the same .It is both a repentance and a penance .

Doing an upaya is doing a prayashchit ---a repentance . We through our own actions turn benefic planets into malefic ; may be even through an inadvertent action. By doing an upaya we repent for having done those deeds. For example : Saturn might be very well placed , but we might make it ‘manda’ or ‘ashubh’ by drinking liquor or maltreating our servants ; The moon might be well placed but we might make it ‘ashubh’ by harassing our mother and so on. Therefore one of the major purpose of the upaya is to repent ; by feeding the fish or touching the feet of our mother and seek her blessings.

Doing an upaya is also doing a tapasya , a penance : throwing a coin each day into a river for 43 days regularly or carrying 8 haldi ganth to a temple for 8 days regularly. Its no joke to go miles to throw a coin into a river, not just once , but for 43 days or driving for a couple of hours to reach a temple eight days in a row. These upaya test our patience and that’s what the ‘tapasya’ is all about. If we want some thing from some one we have to appease him. If we have to appease some one , in this case a planet , we have to do the ‘tapasya’ : the penance . A penance is never easy ; it’s hard, grueling and tough. Tougher the penance is , the sweeter are the fruits.

Therefore the upaya have to be done in the spirit of ‘prayishchit’ and ‘tapasya’ : repentance and penance. There are no short cuts to either of them. You have to do both with religious piety and rigor. If the upaya are done in this spirit and faith, I don’t see any reason why they shouldn’t be effective.

If in spite of your having done the upaya with extreme religious rigor and piety there are no positive results , then the fault will be entirely mine. That means I failed to diagnose the malady correctly or that I failed to devise the correct upaya ; and as a human being it could be quite possible. I am no Pt. Roopchand Joshi ; he was a ‘siddha’.